Men have been cheating on their significant others justifying it because they “deserve more/better sex” for centuries. But I guess posting about how you don’t regret it for the whole public to see is pioneering a new low bar for the wildly popular manosphere crowd.
Speaking of the manosphere, I am concerned that you aren’t taking accountability for being the abuser in this relationship you describe. I think if you had done this to a woman it would be more abundantly clear to anyone who reads it that 1) you pressured someone to have sex when they clearly didnt want to 2) you guilt tripped them after they didn’t consent 3) you paint yourself as the victim in the narrative when you are the one who wronged the other 4) you fail to take accountability by repeatedly affirming you dont regret your actions 5) you describe yourself as “deserving sex.” No one deserves sex, it is not owed to you. I am begging you as a fellow human being to take this as an opportunity to reflect in a more meaningful way than writing this off as a part of your journey of self discovery before you hurt more people and yourself in the
I did read the whole article because the whole time I was really hoping you would end it by taking more accountability and was sorely disappointed. Do you think discovering that you prefer open relationships and wishing things had ended differently is sufficient accountability for things like a disregard for consent, insisting you are a victim when you were the abuser, and believing you deserve sex?
What part of asking for something and then not doing it is disregarding consent? And I didn’t say I deserved sex. I said good sex. Because he was getting blowjobs. So I don’t really see how I’m an abuser for asking that our sex be mutual.
I think if a man posted about how a woman said she didnt want to have sex with him, and he responded by crying on the bed begging to be touched, it would be an obvious example of consent not being taken seriously, of guilting someone into something they weren’t comfortable with, of emotional manipulation. To then take that as your justification for infidelity is victim blaming. I’m not sure if the gender aspect is making the abuse more difficult for you to identify, but I am certain if I had posted about a date where a man did this to me everyone would in unison reply that this person was not safe, and did not understand “no” to mean “no.” While I know you aren’t married, there are lots of married men who think that its okay to cheat when their “needs” aren’t being met. If its not clear what I meant above by the manosphere content - it is that. You are using the same tired rhetoric husbands have been using to justify their infidelity, I’ve just never seen the rhetoric used so unashamedly. That rhetoric is also abuse and has been used to gaslight the innocent partner into believing they are partly culpable, when in fact, they were just using their God given right to say they do not want to have sex.
Men have been cheating on their significant others justifying it because they “deserve more/better sex” for centuries. But I guess posting about how you don’t regret it for the whole public to see is pioneering a new low bar for the wildly popular manosphere crowd.
If you think I’m in the manosphere…
Speaking of the manosphere, I am concerned that you aren’t taking accountability for being the abuser in this relationship you describe. I think if you had done this to a woman it would be more abundantly clear to anyone who reads it that 1) you pressured someone to have sex when they clearly didnt want to 2) you guilt tripped them after they didn’t consent 3) you paint yourself as the victim in the narrative when you are the one who wronged the other 4) you fail to take accountability by repeatedly affirming you dont regret your actions 5) you describe yourself as “deserving sex.” No one deserves sex, it is not owed to you. I am begging you as a fellow human being to take this as an opportunity to reflect in a more meaningful way than writing this off as a part of your journey of self discovery before you hurt more people and yourself in the
process.
Did you actually read this or did you just skim it for the parts you wanted to get mad about and misquote?
I did read the whole article because the whole time I was really hoping you would end it by taking more accountability and was sorely disappointed. Do you think discovering that you prefer open relationships and wishing things had ended differently is sufficient accountability for things like a disregard for consent, insisting you are a victim when you were the abuser, and believing you deserve sex?
What part of asking for something and then not doing it is disregarding consent? And I didn’t say I deserved sex. I said good sex. Because he was getting blowjobs. So I don’t really see how I’m an abuser for asking that our sex be mutual.
I think if a man posted about how a woman said she didnt want to have sex with him, and he responded by crying on the bed begging to be touched, it would be an obvious example of consent not being taken seriously, of guilting someone into something they weren’t comfortable with, of emotional manipulation. To then take that as your justification for infidelity is victim blaming. I’m not sure if the gender aspect is making the abuse more difficult for you to identify, but I am certain if I had posted about a date where a man did this to me everyone would in unison reply that this person was not safe, and did not understand “no” to mean “no.” While I know you aren’t married, there are lots of married men who think that its okay to cheat when their “needs” aren’t being met. If its not clear what I meant above by the manosphere content - it is that. You are using the same tired rhetoric husbands have been using to justify their infidelity, I’ve just never seen the rhetoric used so unashamedly. That rhetoric is also abuse and has been used to gaslight the innocent partner into believing they are partly culpable, when in fact, they were just using their God given right to say they do not want to have sex.